We live in a competitive society where comparing ourselves to others is encouraged. But this can make it difficult to feel good about yourself – especially as there are so many people to compare ourselves to on social media. You are constantly exposed to people’s lives – real or fake- and the brain is processing everything.
If you are struggling with negative thoughts, can you take the time to acknowledge what is behind them- be it pain, feelings or a behaviour? Listen to the voices in your mind and have a go at naming what the underlying issue is.
Once you have acknowledged it, try flipping the scenario: imagine someone close has confided in you that they are feeling those very same thoughts. How would you respond to that friend? Hopefully, with some kind words and compassion to help them feel better. I encourage you to take a couple of minutes out of your day to become conscious of how you speak to yourself. Learn to be your own supportive and encouraging friend. By practicing kindness, to yourself, your negative self-perception shifts to something more positive.
Consider setting a boundary. If you feel able, let those close to you know that, because you are working on acceptance and confidence, you’re trying to focus on conversations that are in line with those values. Something else you can do is surround yourself with media that makes you feel good about yourself. Unfollow and unsubscribe from any accounts that leave you feeling insecure.
As The Mind & Body Guide, my approach to therapy is to help you to understand yourself mentally and physically.
I have decades of experience in health care, including years spent working as a senior physiotherapist in the NHS. I’ve taught Pilates to hundreds of people. And I’m a qualified psychotherapist with a suite of therapy skills to draw on.
By working together, we can plot your pathway to a healthier, happier life.
